The same boiling water that softens the potato, boils the egg. However, under all circumstances, when the water is boiling the egg for too long, there comes a time when it will crack.
2020 has been quite a year. Tragedy after tragedy, life has seemingly become more and more uncertain each day. Yet, life continues to move quickly, moving on to cover the most recent event. All in the span of one year, we have concurrently dealt with: a pandemic, racism, climate crises, tragic deaths of well-known celebrities, and a presidential election deciding the fate of our very nation. Among the countless news outlets and overwhelming headlines reads one to the tragic tune of “Teenager loses everything during pandemic, tragically takes life”. Headlines like these seem to be ubiquitous across news outlets, generating the most “buzz” until the newest topic takes its place.
Processing trauma in a world of uncertainty has becoming nothing short of overwhelming to the extent we become desensitized to the news we hear. How can we not expect this result in the world of today? Our methods of coming to terms with grief have become expedited as we are rushed to face the newest tragic headline. Although some of these events may be ambient and distant, their effects are seemingly cumulative, especially when these events hit closer to home. Whether you know someone who was lost to COVID-19 or felt threatened as a person of color living in the US, we must understand these circumstances can warrant different expressions of grief in us. We all come to terms with trauma in many ways with varying durations of time and express our grief differently. We must not forget that despite being in times like these.
How can we tackle uncertainty? Though ambient stressors and outside factors can infringe on our mental health at any time, our best method of maintaining sanity is to prepare ourselves. Chance favors the prepared mind. We cannot avoid external stressors all together, but we can do our bests to control what we can and try our bests to set aside what we can’t. Amidst all the chaos that happens every day, I always set aside a couple minutes for self-reflection. Reflect on yourself, your goals, your emotions, and how you feel vs where you would like to be. Mental checkpoints are the best combat against the uncertainty of today, especially in a world that doesn’t seem to stop for air. I designate 5 minutes of every morning and every evening to reflect on my feelings and how I feel. I understand every day will have its highs and lows. There will be moments of self-doubt, of being down. However, these times are temporary and will pass. Mental preparation is the best method to tackle the uncertainties in the world of today. As one who tends to let feelings bubble up, self-reflection has been the key to prevent myself from softening or cracking in this chaotic world we live in.
Blog Post by Nathan Delacth